Death..


Last evening the nation lost one of it's iconic leaders.. Late Shri Atal Bihari Vajpayee besides being a seasoned politician was also a renowned poet.. But I didn't know him as well as all the people on social media who've updated their status with pics of him or poems in honour of him.. My only association with him was as a kid when I would watch Shekhar Suman do absolutely brilliant imitations of Sri Vajpayee ji on his late night talk show called 'Movers and Shakers'.. And I'm sure none of those people sharing condolences messages knew Sri Vajpayee ji personally.. So I was mildly amused at seeing sooooooooo many messages on social media by people who were 'paying tribute' to this humble soul.. Also it made me wonder.. 'Is this what it takes to appreciate someone'.. Death???.. I guess it must be true..

I've been to several funerals.. But I've yet to attend a funeral where someone bitches about the dead.. They all go gushing about what a beautiful person he/she was.. So loving, so kind, a wonderful spouse/parent/sibling.. He/she WAS a gem of a person.. So it makes me wonder did you say these things to the person while he/she was alive? What stopped you from saying all these things to the person while he/she was alive? And I realised we spend most of our time criticizing the people around.. Finding faults in all that they do.. To paraphrase a quote from the Bible, we focus on 'The speck in the neighbour's eye while totally ignoring the log in our own eye'..

I guess the reason why we find it so difficult to compliment someone or appreciate them is probably because it makes us feel inadequate.. But then if we can't compliment someone we should also refrain from making unsavoury remarks.. I do know some people who never crib about others.. Even if the whole crowd is talking bad about someone these individuals never join in the bitching.. That's why I admire these people and also aspire to be like them.. But then my 'human nature' gets the better of me.. And... You know the rest..

Well, I know it's easier to just give a dose of their own medicine to people.. But then that's not who we are.. We're capable of better than that.. So let's make a conscious effort to say a kind word to those around.. You never know how large an impact that would make in that person's life.. And for those of you who feel low and unappreciated at times.. Always remember there will be a day when everyone around you will love you, appreciate you, say nice only things about you.. That day will be the day of your death!

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