Transfer...

Being a banker in a PSU I always "knew" I'm liable to be transferred..but nothing could've prepared me for the shock when I saw my transfer order.. The transfer order meant I would have to relocate.. and since my husband doesn't have a transferable job and my daughter has adjusted to her school we just decided it would be better just for me to move away and stay alone at my new place of posting..

Well, any married woman with kids will tell you about her fantasies of a "single life".. you know where she can wake up at whatever time she wants, not cook, not have to worry about packing lunch boxes and school bags.. Basically women lust for freedom from the daily routine and they all long for some "Me" time.. But from my experience of the past week I can tell you that "single life" sucks big time! It's just been one week, but I feel it's been a year since I've been away from home..

I don't want to sound ungrateful.. The new place is nice..people here have been extremely kind to me.. and have even gone out of their way to help me and make life as comfortable for me as possible.. But the people here are too close for comfort.. and don't really have a sense of boundaries.. I have been asked by atleast 2 members of the hotel staff about how much I earn!!! I'm wondering if they'll insist on seeing my salary slip the next time they see me.. lol.. Another waiter at the dining hall in the hotel told me it's time I had another baby.. felt like telling him that the timing's not right, but he wouldn't have got my sarcasm.. sometimes I feel that all my sarcasm will go to waste in this place.. That apart, the place is nice and so are the people.. And the weather is absolutely amazing..

Apart from the fact that I have to stay away from my family the new place is an absolute joy to be in.. The fabulous weather, the kind hearted people and the near zero traffic are the best things about this place.. Nothing to beat the commuting time here.. The travel time between any two points in the city is 10 minutes max.. it's a joke between my friend and me that if just roll out of bed I'll reach office.. of course it's an exaggeration.. but you get an idea about the kind of travel time we're talking about..

So during the past week many support staff of the hotel I was staying at engaged me in conversation.. and their eyes would pop out the minute I mentioned that I have a daughter who's 7 yrs old.. I could feel that they're silently judging me ..oh what a mother.. she left her small child back home and came away.. well to all the people judging me for my decision to not quit my job - up yours! I'm able to take a bold decision of staying away from my family because I have a very supportive husband and I can never thank him enough for being supportive of all my choices in life.. And I'm answerable to no one except him.. the rest of you can find someone else to judge..

I'm also thankful to so many friends and well wishers who have been so supportive of me.. A transfer order is a huge change in a bankers life..and I'm thankful to all the people who keep checking on me regularly and ensuring I always have someone to talk to..

Apparently the real test of life is how well you handle Plan B.. Normally in such a circumstance as mine, the first instinct would be to quit the job.. However I decided to try Plan B and take up the challenge of working at the place that's not in my comfort zone.. let's see how things pan out..